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rm_Readyat10pm 49 M
6  questions
Seperated? What does it mean to you? - 7/10/2021

I am seperated recently. My and I live alone, he stays with me full time. I have filed for divorce and it is moving forward but in the state of MD you have to be seperated for a year before your divorce can be finalized. So I put seperated on my profile but I still hear well you could still be together or you are still married. Well yes I am still married but unfortunately the courts ...

17 response(s), 28 votes
Is it OK to cheat? - 7/10/2021

Married for 26 years. Two ... 18 and 22 (both girls). Sex was great and frequent for both of us. My wife decided that sex wasn't important shortly after a youngest was born (that's right I've only had sex 5-8 times in the last 18+ years and nothing in the last 12). She... has been cold, refuses to spend time with me and spends all of her free time reading. I've tried ...

28 response(s), 25 votes
Skittles2001989 36 F
0  questions
the V word - 7/10/2021

is a person a virgen if the have been ?

23 response(s), 36 votes
CheetosPimp 56 M
1  question
Funniest Screen name? - 7/10/2021

What is the funniest screen name you've seen on here? I'm talking about one that made you laugh your ass off, you know the name that you're ticked off that you didn't come up with? I've had this one for a short time and already gotten some laughs. I had a network invite from a hot couple before I could even get into the chat room. So think hard and lets see ...

17 response(s), 37 votes
leo_adonis4u 43 M
2  questions
How to come up with your porn "stage" name? - 7/10/2021

I heard my little cousin (16) talking to a group of his friends about porn names. I listened in thinking it was something malicious. Instead they were saying that you come up with your porn "stage" name by taking the name of the first pet you ever had and adding behind it the name of the first street you ever lived on.
Mine would be:
"Spanky Via Matador"
I ...

39 response(s), 57 votes
...any recourse for this man? - 7/10/2021

A friend of the family has been harassed for the last fourteen or so years by a woman claiming that her was his.
He's constantly been in court with this woman, had his paychecks garnished, and even went to jail on several occasions over this matter.
Well, if you watch any amount of daytime television, then you know where I'm headed with this...
After refusing ...

12 response(s), 6 votes
Extramist 60 M
5  questions
Your partner's - 7/10/2021

At what point in your relationship with your friend, partner, or significant other do you have a right to comment on how they treat their ?
Obviously, if they are abusing them, you should comment right away; but I thinking more about actions or behaviors that are making their overly dependent upon them and not teaching them to be independent individual. Does that ability come in ...

15 response(s), 14 votes
Forcing a woman into a blow job - 7/10/2021

I love my boy friend dearly, but he is really insatiable. When my red flag is flying he wants me lend him my ass which I politely refuse. I am afraid of damaging my anal sphinctre and its elasticity. Next, he insists on a blow job whch I am unable to refuse.
However, it makes me very angry that he is so inconsiderate of my low moods and my menstrual cramps. He wants his jollies at ...

29 response(s), 41 votes
Scott_in_Tulsa 39 M
25  questions
Baby Momma Drama - What to do ? - 7/10/2021

Out of the blue today I got a call from my 's mother, M.
Let me give you some background here.
I have custody of my 15 year old S-jr, I’ve had custody of him for the past 10 years. M and I were together when he was born and we stayed together till he was about 6 months old. Shortly after she and I parted company, I lost track of her for a while. When I finally found ...

19 response(s), 20 votes
suzy_screw 34 F
0  questions
Is risking death the final taboo? - 7/10/2021

Ok its like this. I consider myself to be a mature and open minded , fairly unshockable woman. But there is one aspect of the scene that I just cant get my head around. I cant get over people who advertise blatently for unprotected sex. In this day and age where we are at risk of std's that are incurable, why would any woman ( or indeed couple) actively seek out bareback encounters for ...

25 response(s), 41 votes
rm_RI_Goddess 53 F
1  question
I Don't Get It - 7/9/2021

On a daily basis I receive at least one email that has the famous words, "Hey Baby, Wanna F***". Oftentimes the men will also include their with said email. Do men truly believe they will get a response, or better yet, a phone call, from such a email or are they just trying to be annoying? At first I thought that these emails were perhaps associated with age, however, over time I have ...

16 response(s), 16 votes
vivaciousnymph 50 F
0  questions
Does Love really happen on American Sex Dates? - 7/9/2021

Does love really happen on American Sex Dates? I have been a member of other sites and gotten frustrated due to the hesitancy of members to meet in person. The members seem to be content to e-mail and chat for long periods of time, but when you mention meeting in person they stop writting. I must admit the members on American Sex Dates that I have contacted or been contacted by have not been hesitant to meet in ...

11 response(s), 19 votes
Why do men go back to their wives? - 7/9/2021

My question is this. Why do some men go back to their wives, even after long separations. Even when the wife was mean to them and there is no in the mix? A friend of mine did this recently and I can't for the life of me figure out what the hell he was thinking. He said for the sake of life and limb it was cheaper to go back to her! Why do men do this??

19 response(s), 13 votes
How to get back in the saddle again .... - 7/9/2021

I'm being completely honest here, so please be gentle with me.
I've only slept with 2 men in my life. Rather embarrasing statistics for a woman my age.
My first boyfriend was a complete ass. He treated me very poorly and in the end when I decided I'd had enogh of his abuse, he me.
Next I found my husband. The sizzle in the relationship died and I begged ...

14 response(s), 27 votes
Im in a dilema with family and getting on with my life.what do i do - 7/9/2021

Hi im Tina an independent womean in abitof a dilema coz i think im single with no . My family have relied on me coz of that fact. For instance i took 6 months long service leave to travel over seas as i have worked for 20 years. I was due to leave at en do july but my brother met a woman and decided to get married on aug 19. so ive delayed my trip. he met awonderful girl at the nd of ...

17 response(s), 20 votes
here4fun2night 73 C
0  questions
Is it cold feet or game playing?" - 7/9/2021

"I really don't understand and am seeking your opinion." Why would someone go to the trouble of exchanging emails, expressing desire for the things sought after in someones profile, exchange . Then get right up to the point of meeting, then disappear? Is it a game played by some on here? Or do alot of people just get cold feet, and are too embarassed to say so? Or do we have BO...LOL...

48 response(s), 74 votes
Can a Man Be By a Woman - 7/9/2021

I know there have been lots of topics of this over the years, but how many out there think a woman can a man.I know the percentage will say there is no way it can happen, but i disagree.If anyone like to hear my theory on how, the let me know, and i will gladly tell you something that actually happened to me one night.When i confronted the lady afterwards that she could be charged with , ...

31 response(s), 37 votes
rm_quietman6706 56 M
1  question
Committment issues - 7/9/2021

I found a really nice lady that I would like to get closer too. We are both divorced with and seem to have a lot of other things in common. We both admit that we are looking for new spouses to spend the rest of our lives with. However, when I try to take the relationship to the next level and tell her I love her she starts talking about breaking up! She admits to having an issue with ...

11 response(s), 12 votes
Lookin4Funn6969 41 F
0  questions
Sex Toys - 7/9/2021

At the risk of sounding naive, I'm asking for some help!
I have only owned two vibrators in my life, and both have been purchased for me. They were both very basic, solid colored, very simple vibrators. Two speeds, loud, not too much fun, but got the job done.
What I am asking is for some advice as to what sites are good for finding products online...where have you ...

14 response(s), 21 votes
FanErotic6996 59 M
15  questions
Sexual Solicitations - 7/9/2021

13% = the percentage of youths 13 - 17 surveyed March - June 2005 who received a sexual solicitation online. That is down from 19% in 2000. Statistics from the Center for Missing & Expolited .
I know that authorities are doing much more to combat this now - for those that have or nieces/nephews etc - Do you pass on any advice to their parents or do you discuss this with ...

8 response(s), 15 votes
WileECoyote26 52 M
2  questions
Dating when your over 30 and divorced. - 7/9/2021

When you suddenly find yourself divorced with , what do you do next? After being in a relationship for 10 plus years, you suddenly find yourself alone, and lonely. You long for companionship, and the ability to talk to an adult. Yet, the thought of "Dating" scares the hell out of anyone. For some, being asked, or asking, is something that does not require any effort. Others, it is a ...

10 response(s), 22 votes
luvingcpl4u 67 C
0  questions
Condoms or not? - 7/9/2021

How would you deal with the following: Two very close married couples, with so safety is a priority and neither would do anything foolish to endanger that. Neither have played for a long while (one year and two years) and agree to get tested. Both promise to keep the play between them and their spouses. Would you or would you not insist on condoms?

8 response(s), 8 votes
TheRox333 36 M
11  questions
How do you meet MILFs? - 7/9/2021

I've always had a thing for MILFs since i was a little . My question is, how can i ever meet a MILF? Should i approach them in the same way i would with a girl closer to my age? What's your opinion?

20 response(s), 40 votes
What do I do in a situation like this? - 7/9/2021

I will be married for 4 years at the end of this month. In this last month i have seen that my husband has been coming to this site looking for a partner. It upsetted my so much. But I created a handle and emailed him. He was totally attracted to me. And wanted to chat, we chatted and he denied being married, he said he had a roommate. We set up a date and he told me where to meet him and I ...

21 response(s), 28 votes
Frequency of sex??? - 7/9/2021

As a married couple, how often are you having sex? We have it once per week. Of course I think it should be more often and she just doesn't have time. For the record, we both work full time (9-5) and have one at home who is in bed by 9pm.

46 response(s), 85 votes
rm_wendy73127 53 F
0  questions
Would any of you guys consider ............. - 7/9/2021

I have a friend who wants a but haven't been able to get pregnant from her boyfriend who shes been with for 3 years. Would you let your girlfriend get pregnant from some one else because she want another ? They have discussed this and he says its ok and wants her pregnant even though he cannot get her pregnant. What would you do?...

21 response(s), 36 votes
wifey3223 55 F
227  questions
when will you all quit being so narrow mided? - 7/9/2021

I was reading a question trying it once wrote. The female half paula, again she's 40. I wrote a question on older women's question's, this lady sound's real & open minded & fair. however, I agree with her 1) why? do so many limit they're self to just small women or big only. 2)only they're race I know allot will say preference, but if t you're preference worked so well.you & I wouldn't ...

8 response(s), 17 votes
BJStrokes 124 M
25  questions
Here goes ...I guess I need to find out what others think - 7/9/2021

I have only known LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS until now. My last was 5 yrs. Well, my ex was the only partner I had until now for those 5 yrs. He and I were still sexually involved even after the break up ..until recently before I joined American Sex Dates. I hadn't still "been" with any other, yet he's been with ..well quite a few. I was recently at his place with my while he was gone and logged into ...

8 response(s), 15 votes
Scott_in_Tulsa 39 M
25  questions
Profile Headline Advice... - 7/9/2021

I'm considering reworking my profile for the umpteenth million time.

the current headline is :
Captain Scott Seeks a Dirty Pirate
but i'm also considering
Hey Babe, wanna get blogged ?
or
Hopeless Romantic in Search of Nymphomaniac
A few others that have been entertained are :
Next ? Not Mr ...

8 response(s), 16 votes
3223214 34 M
0  questions
what happens??? - 7/9/2021

i am 18 now and i was masterbating everyday since i was 12.it is a lil crazy i know..but i was so fascinated by the bodies of women coz it was my first time 2 see breasts and pussies..i am really afraid now of having no in the future for what i have done and i cant stop masterbating..what should i do and what is gonna happen 2 me???

26 response(s), 34 votes