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"Anathema" ? I've absolutely no idea what that means "hook up" to me means a one night stand, may or may not include a drink/dinner but will definitely involve sex of some description. I too chuckle at the fact that men list the activities that they enjoy.. the movies, theatre, dinner, shark wrestling, hiking, camping.... blah blah ... Errrr hang on mate you're looking for NSA, why does anyone need to know what you enjoy as you won't be doing them together.... You just want SEX, not a lover/companion or heaven forbid an actual relationship! Ah anathema... the opposite... the anti?!
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That’s always confusing. Doesn’t matter tho. You get the choice of entertaining these umm... people.... heh, whether you want to or not. I just ignore the idiots completely. What don’t get are the women seeking an unrealistic God fearing honest monogamous (HA!!) good blah blah blah soul for lifetime partner/marriage on THIS site. Wtf.... why bother here at all? Go to the sites where that is expected. Smh.
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3/19/2020 9:39 am |
Hookup is having a sexual experience with the other person or persons.
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Good morning hun and the answer to you question is short and sweet. I am going to say what the site says: SIGN UP TODAY AND GET LAID TONIGHT. To me that's what a hook up means, a lot of men believe this to be true and yet it doesn't happen.. I hope you have a great day hun and please stay safe out there..
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Why Am I here? Sometimes Im just looking to find someone sexy to flirt with. Nothing greater than someone that just clicks with you in that moment. Sometimes Im looking for a connection that will last longer than a "Hi". Someone that is interested in having fun both in bed and out. and Sometimes I just want to fill someone. I guess that a Hookup is really just what the original meaning was. You meet, you get excited, you fuck, and you walk away feeling satisfied. Well the last part is just a hope
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Great post. I for one am not seeking hookups in the sense I understand them. Too old for that and it doesn't appeal to me
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Hookup is having a sexual experience with the other person or persons.
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I googled "hookup" meaning, and one of the informal definitions was "a casual sexual encounter". The word "casual" is very, very vague. lol So I look up the definition of casual, and the one at the top says "relaxed and unconcerned". I get the relaxed part... but the "unconcerned" threw me for a loop. So "hookup" means a relaxed and unconcerned sexual encounter? Thoughts from the Garden...
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Temtrzz Damn false advertising!!! Got my hopes up, like 10 years ago, and im still waiting to get laid tonight!!! lol
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People who have preset rules of how they interact here or elsewhere, are, may i say, 'idiots'.
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A hook-up is where you pull in your RV/camper for a temporary stay and then dump all your shit before driving to the next camp. Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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Good morning hun and the answer to you question is short and sweet. I am going to say what the site says: SIGN UP TODAY AND GET LAID TONIGHT. To me that's what a hook up means, a lot of men believe this to be true and yet it doesn't happen.. I hope you have a great day hun and please stay safe out there..
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I think this duality in what people are looking for goes for both sexes. I constantly see profiles with women showing off their scantily clad (if at all) bodies claiming they are here for a meaningful relationship. I think some guys who are here for the hookup, are just adapting their search in order to improve their odds off that illusive NSA connection.
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3/19/2020 10:50 am |
I don't think that's accurate. Sex with my husband is not a hookup.
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If I were inclined to reductionism (and, in general, I am not), I would say that *everyone* in this community is *here* for entertainment, including a generous dollop of self-gratification. Given the gross disproportion between female and male populations, I strongly suspect "hook-ups" are the exception and not the rule in our interactions.
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Here is the anathema definition since I did not know what it meant until I looked it up: 1. something or someone that one vehemently dislikes or a formal curse by a pope 2. a council of the Church, excommunicating a person or denouncing a doctrine Thank you for the new word today! I love learning, hence, a hookup for me includes the mental stimulation with word foreplay.
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3/19/2020 11:14 am |
Definitely a good question indeed. Well in my opinion a hookup is when you get together, yeah some talking then one person starts taking off clothes. Whoever dives first ( typically me ) gets on their hands and knees to start licking as the appetizer.
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If you have a husband does he know your here and looking for what?
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*munching popcorn and laughing at BJ's response* Hm, I suppose I consider a hookup to be having sex after very brief acquaintance....like having drinks together....and having the understanding/expectation going in that it's just going to be once. Then there are the dreamers who don't even want to have drinks first - like the guy who recently messaged me at 10:30 pm on a very cold night wondering if I'd be interested in coming to his hotel room.
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That’s always confusing. Doesn’t matter tho. You get the choice of entertaining these umm... people.... heh, whether you want to or not. I just ignore the idiots completely. What don’t get are the women seeking an unrealistic God fearing honest monogamous (HA!!) good blah blah blah soul for lifetime partner/marriage on THIS site. Wtf.... why bother here at all? Go to the sites where that is expected. Smh.
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To me, 'hookup' = quick shag, one night stand. People misconstrue that as NSA, which does not exist in my view. Hookup is wrongly what I thought I needed back in the day and so I joined this site. More chance of catching a fish here mind than having anquick shag........ Hope you are well McBiggles and surviving the madness okay. Mega snogs
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Good morning hun and the answer to you question is short and sweet. I am going to say what the site says: SIGN UP TODAY AND GET LAID TONIGHT. To me that's what a hook up means, a lot of men believe this to be true and yet it doesn't happen.. I hope you have a great day hun and please stay safe out there.. My definition of a hook up .. and as some one already looked up each words and have their answer. A hook up , in my Opinion will have a connection, there may or may not be length in the relationship. One night , one week or one year, could become a hook up. But I think there should be some realistic conversation. I for one would not touch another even with some one else's hand unless I knew something about the party. I would not want to have a hook up with some one that did not want to know something about me.. I guess I am in a minority that still has some respect for my self and would like to have that with any one I happen to be with.. Red and I will pour you one from my bottle and we will drink to the "hook-up tonight, with just sign and drive " Young Lady Smile, it's gonna be alright.. Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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I brought my popcorn .. can't WAIT to see the answers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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A hook-up is where you pull in your RV/camper for a temporary stay and then dump all your shit before driving to the next camp. Around here, my odds are good but the goods are odd BiggLala replies on 3/19/2020 2:51 pm: Ding, ding, ding!!!! As usual...Miss BJ is our winner! Tell her what she's won, Tom! Tom: "Uhhh...I don't know. No one has ever actually won on here." *whispers into the mic* "What do we do?!?!" I AM LAUGHING MY ASS OFF AT THIS WHOLE BIT HERE ^^^ THANKS LADIES!!
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A hook up is drive by sex. One night stand. Instant release. Not know your name or really care. The “I will call you” on way out the door. And he does, in 6 months at 11pm on way home from the bar because he could not get so much as a smile from the cute ones in the bar. TBH, some hook ups are not so bad. Some , you just might want more.
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A hookup to me is a one-off, never meet again, couldn't care what your name is kind of thing. Which isn't what I'm looking for. I would like to get to know someone a little more (that's where the "connection" comes in) and perhaps develop a FWB situation. Meanwhile, back in reality...
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To me.....a hookup indicates mindless sex...no feeling ..no attachement...a booty call or a visit to the street corner . I dont travel in the same circles as the hook up crew. I gotta have a few attached strings......just a few will do~~
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A hook-up is where you pull in your RV/camper for a temporary stay and then dump all your shit before driving to the next camp. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Lala, Lala, Lala, la la la la la . . . oooppps site glitch. Do NOT repeat Do NOT listen to what the fools behind the curtain (of anonymity) say. These siteS are whatever the member make it for their own use. If a person (moron) continues to believe the hype (a.k.a. marketing) beyond roughly a week they aren't worth listening to. Those people often say (whine actually) most everything is fake etc. so they are pretty easy to spot. 'You've got to remember that these are just simple horn dogs. These are people of the land. The common clay of the new West. You know... morons.' When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I'm not on here solely for a hook-up but I have taken the bait on occasions.
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That’s always confusing. Doesn’t matter tho. You get the choice of entertaining these umm... people.... heh, whether you want to or not. I just ignore the idiots completely. What don’t get are the women seeking an unrealistic God fearing honest monogamous (HA!!) good blah blah blah soul for lifetime partner/marriage on THIS site. Wtf.... why bother here at all? Go to the sites where that is expected. Smh.
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A hookup is a short time from meeting to sex. It may, or may not, lead to another round. If they occur, those additional rounds may, or may not lead to something more closely resembling an actual relationship. On a bit of a side note - You're too young to have really experienced it, but back in the late 70s people (both men AND women) actually had sex with others the same day they meet, and then saw if if grew in to something, or not. So there are men (and possibly some women) here seeking hookups. There are likely also some here seeking hookups while alleging to be open to more too. Coronascopes HOT as a Fireman, on HNW My Plan B Then [post 3312759] My Private Blog - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets
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If only you could use your honesty wand and reveal the truth of the persons intentions. ?* maybe this will work... inquisition anyone? Personally I'm kind of flexible in my relationship desires. I'd love to find a woman that I could be in love with and have a very busy sex life with. I do try to keep things from getting boring and strive to have mutual satisfaction as the main goal. I have no problem with getting married again though I do have to say I would want to really feel I knew the woman well enough and there weren't going to be any surprises or sudden changes in personality after the vows (back to that honesty thing, which is why it comes up so often in dating sites). Having said that though I am flexible enough to enjoy a relationship of a FWB or even a random hook up type. What is important is being clear up front of what the expectations are from both partners to each other. But having said that human nature being what it is people and their feelings do evolve. People can easily get attached to one another and want the relationship to change but the other person may not be on the same page. Often people have mixed emotions of what they really want and don't realize or admit it out loud to themselves even. It is important to know thyself well and to be honest with ones self. So yes because as has been pointed out, the different sites with different tones/intentions being lumped together has caused annoyance between parties from different sites and even from people from the same site as just because some obnoxious jerks think the site is just for their needs/wants doesn't mean that's the way it is. Some people don't appreciate the differences and are doomed to being unsatisfied jackasses trying to tell everyone else how to be. Vive La Difference
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If speed is your thing......... If you believe most of the male complaints here, quick shags are few and far between (not the requests/demands thereto). Now, I say complaints, I don't say justifiable complaints. I reckon, as a person who is occasionally entitled to offer advice, that most regular of occasional advice I offer is 'take yer time'............ Hope ye're well McBiggles, snoggerama!!!
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3/23/2020 4:39 am |
Says Friend Finder...but in small print...hookup, find a hoe... Did that...needless to say it dragged out, and wound up ending ugly. I guess I was feeling more, and so was she, but she was too comfortable in hr recliner living with hubby....now I get death threats from rogue members who are her on her friends list... Not quite what I signed up for
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3/23/2020 12:05 pm |
Hoe, ho, ho ho...the English language sure is wonderful... If you’ve seen some of the ones I get messaged by, a shovel might be more appropriate.
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~puts arm around the McBiggles and cuddles gently while stroking hair~ Och, ye poor wee scone ye....... As usual, lost in translation, the advice was directed at the guys who seem to want to rush in headlong (with the little head). I reckon I'd be the last person who would be giving you advice! Now, what was this post about again?
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You're my kind of woman!!
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3/30/2020 11:15 am |
Finally some logic on this site
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4/1/2020 9:38 am |
69? I'd love to fuck you!
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I would like this site to be a place to chat, then if there appears to be any possibility, then arrange a meet. So far the very few ladies that have ever replied, either wanted to charge to meet or decided a meet would not work out. I am a standard member because I don’t want to “pay for sex” so my chat options are limited. One night stand or ongoing FWB is what I call a hookup.
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4/3/2020 12:30 pm |
Good post and an interesting series of questions. I really think it's hard for many people (including myself) to actually determine what this site actually is. It's also very hard for many people to sift through the b.s. of being able to understand the basis of this site or to distinguish truth, fiction and fantasy. Most importantly, the toughest part for most is to wrap their head around the fact that this site is ONLY a business and nothing more. I say again very clearly, this site is ONLY a business! It's one and only care and concern as a business is to generate profit and as much of it as possible. It does not care about anyone at all or if anyone "hooks up", "gets laid" or anything else. Most of the hype around the mentality around here is in it's marketing strategy....remember, sex sells...even if it actually hardly ever happens for the greatest majority of folks on site. So with the whole idea of profit as being the primary site concern, everything that falls below that level is corruption, greed, lies, scams and games. When you follow the trail of money, it always leads to these things because it's the root of all evil. No surprise then why nothing ever works for people here, as the corruption is literally built in to the software and all. Ever notice how the systems of communication are so conveniently crappy on site? Why IM's are flaky? Why some messages just disappear or don't get sent through to recipients? This just isn't ancient software or something. This is purposely done to restrict people from contacting one another and thus, having successes. The irony here is that even though the site makes it sound like it's crafted to bring people together, the very last thing it wants is for people to meet other people and be successful. By doing that, people have no need to be on site, so they leave, cancel memberships and the site loses money. I don't think many people examine it in this way, which is a major flaw when I hear the rants and frustrations of the unsuccessful. So, is this a "hookup site"? Well, I choose to base my decision on that question by what this site itself tells me it's designed for, per it's corporate page and not through being misled by the marketing campaign and advertisements. From what I gather, this site is not solely a "hookup site" or "sex site" at all. What it tells me is that it is a multi-purpose site which is designed for a variety of different people for a variety of different reasons, both for offline reasons (personal site reasons, meets, etc), as well as online reasons (social media: chatting, cams, blogs, contests, erotic stories, etc). There is nothing 'solely' about this site at all. As for what "hookup" means, that is probably a very loose term that is thrown around far too often, which seems to be left open for interpretation on a person to person basis. To some, that may mean a quick shag without any strings whatsoever with complete strangers. To others, that may mean having some strings in terms of getting to know someone a bit, knowing some background or having some mutual care for one another as friends before hitting the sheets. In general, I feel that the term "hook up" means that two people do want to connect and that the ultimate goal in mind is to end up in bed, either with or without friendship/feelings/care. When you call the phone or cable company to come "hook up" your service to the house, you are requesting a tech to physically come to your location and make an appearance in person for that service. The actual "hook up" is allowing the phone/cable/internet to pass through the public service lines and make a physical connection to your home successfully. Similarly, this is how I understand a "hook up" when it's used in terms around sites here. People who use that term should want some sort of "connection". That "connection doesn't necessarily have to mean that two people have to truly care about one another, be friends with or love each other (although it also can). It simply just has to mean that both parties must be on the same page about what that "connection" is that they both seek. So if two complete strangers mutually agree to anonymously meet up and fool around, I'd say that would be a "hook up", just as really good friends could also do. All in all, I feel that "hook up" basically just means "get together" or "connect". Again, there's a lot of interpretation involved in loose terms and equally a lot of vagueness in society for those willing to open up and discuss meanings like that. What I have gathered over the years is that most men on here who use the term "hook up" and contact me, it always translates to meaning "lets get together for sex because I'm horny and want to f*#k". The loose terms and improper use of many have really put a confusing and frustrating damper on many searches. Take the terms "NSA" and "FWB". Both are two very different things. An NSA means you want no strings sex, whereas a FWB actually does mean that you do want at least some strings involved per a meaningful friendship. Yet I see both of these terms loosely used all over this site for years, interchanged with one another and improperly used. Worse yet, some profiles even tell the reader that they want an NSA FWB, which is an oxymoron. So like you said, for the majority of men on this site who claim they seek a connection and want to get to know someone....well, the majority of that is pure b.s.! Translation: They want sex. Period. They could generally care less of a female, who it is, what her likes and interests are, etc. As long as she's willing to meet and spread her legs is the only concern and care here. Then when you're up against the business aspect ($$) of what this site is and all of it's clever marketing schemes, computer programming, limitations, restrictions and all else, then it becomes very clear to us all why next to none of the people here are successful. It's built directly into the plan for profit, so actually communicating with people to even get remotely to that point of meeting in the first place is next to an impossibility to begin with. Then you have lots of other issues in society mixed into that equation, such as overwhelming ignorance, overwhelming rudeness, lack of desire, people not knowing what they want or why they're here, people too busy or sidetracked to be here or communicate like adults or in meaningful balance, imbalanced gender ratio, people living too far from one another, etc etc etc. "I read a post where one respondent suggested that men here want hookups, but the women here just want attention. He went on to say there is no reason women here can't engage men in "intelligent conversation...." First, women are not initiators of conversation to men. Men initiate. Women are almost always responders. There will likely never be a time in the history of any man on this site where a legitimate woman initiated a message to a man first....unless of course he had something which was in her complete favor, such as a sugar daddy with money, luxuries, or some very unique or freak of nature physical attribute. From my experiences here, most men generally don't hold "intelligent conversations", nor are they generally intelligent people, nor are they even willing to be mature enough to want to hold decent intelligent convo. "....and they should respond to every man that contacts them to "get to know" the man before rejecting him. " I do respond to every message from men that I'm able to, if they aren't rude or something. I give everyone a fair chance on here, but the bottom line is that the man must be contacting a woman with relevant criteria in the first place. You men simply can't expect a woman to respond, care or click with you if you're not reading profiles prior to contacting us and are writing to us for irrelevant reasons and intent. Should be no surprise of reject or ignored emails if those who are contact us are doing so for irrelevant or clashing reasons of what our profiles are telling the world what we're here for to begin with. That's a huge fault that I see many men fall into. READ, READ, READ!! Ignorance is overwhelming around here, so this is why reject happens. It's also what leaves a never-ending sour taste for us women to have no desire to open messages, read and respond to the majority. Give us a real reason to care and we will if you men write to us with relevant purpose and intent for our reasons on site. " I mean...doesn't everyone want attention in some form or another, particularly on sex/dating site? Why are you on here for then if you don't want attention, even if just to chat or cam? You definitely want attention IF you joined to personally meet people. Plus, isn't conversation and getting to know someone an anathema to hookups?" True, but it isn't solely a dating/sex site, it is also partly a social media site, therefore, not everyone needs/wants attention from other people personally if, for example, they've joined this site to view/vote on photo contests, or to read erotic stories, or to create bling, or to watch adult movies in the video section or do any other variety of things where you're not engaged in one on one interaction with another person. So there are actually some valid reasons that people have for being on site where they don't seek attention by others and just prefer to be on site for the media only and without any direct human to human interaction.
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4/15/2020 10:37 am |
Not sure on this iste
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4/16/2020 5:34 am |
In my stoooopid *** opinion...I would need some type of connection with whom I am connecting with. Mindless sex is not my style.
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4/28/2020 2:42 pm |
You're precisely the problem on this site. You THINK that this site is solely of one thing ( a sex site/ hookup site ), oblivious to the fact that it serves multi-purposes for all sorts of people...and that includes online only criteria and purpose (i.e. adult based social media). Again, completely oblivious to your surroundings while on this site, since everywhere you look on site, you see online only options which have nothing to do with physically meeting, hooking up or having sex with anyone (i.e. chat rooms, photo contests, groups, erotic stories, adult magazines, adult videos, web camming, the 'What's Hot' section, the 'Sex Academy' section, blinging and of course this very blog that you have chimed into [how ironic!]). What's more, it's so typical of people on site to be so ignorant, since nobody seems to ever bother reading, yet the false claims always are used as some sort of fuel tool. Had you actually took the time to read BiggLala's profile (yes, that means utilizing that premium Gold membership that you actually pay for), you'd likely know that much information in advance to not go ahead and post such foolish claims. It's all of this stuff that makes you a contributing factor of why this site never works for anyone at all with the ignorance, claims and also the fractured mentality of what this site is as a whole.
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4/28/2020 2:46 pm |
Doesn't seem that anyone is denying the fact that the gender ratio on site is grossly imbalanced. 20 men to 1 woman seems like a conservative number. If I were to do the math in realistic terms by eliminating all of the fake female accounts and catfish around here, I'd think that ratio would be much more drastic in terms of many dozens (possibly hundreds) of men to one woman. Just a guess, though. It isn't like anyone can figure out true ratio statistics when in fact, nobody has any idea of who is legitimately real or fake around here, unless it's blatantly obvious.
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4/28/2020 3:12 pm |
And once again, your ignorance shines on through. This site isn't solely of one thing or another. It's NOT solely a sex site or a hookup site. It's a multi-purpose site, designed for a personals site intent (i.e. in-person intent to meet for friendships, dating, love, romance, and of course sex and fetishes of any kind imaginable) as well as adult based social media (i.e. chat rooms, blogs, groups, blinging, erotic stories, web camming, photo contests, etc..). That's all described on the corporate page of the very site you willingly signed up to and agreed on, upon you deciding to join it and actually pay for it's services to use. Once you understand that fact, you'll better understand why someone might create profiles or post photos of themselves with (quote) "pussy and tits out for the world to see". Ummm, yeah. If you aren't yet aware, let me break down the following: 1 .) This site is adult oriented (18+) and mature adult and sexual content are indeed the driving force of why mostly all people are here in some way, shape or form. Sexual or nude pics are indeed appropriate for the nature of this site. 2 .) Photography is MEDIA! Hence, posting nude/sexual photography on a site which is both designed for that very nature AND partly for adult based social MEDIA is perfectly within appropriate reason to post. 3 .) Again, photography is MEDIA! Because someone posts MEDIA of herself means absolutely nothing at all about why that person may be here. You do understand that upon joining this site, we're all granted a profile to be used, filled out and an expectation for others to actually read description areas on those profiles? A profile pic is separate from a profile description. Again, once you understand that separation and the purpose of each of those separate elements, you'll better understand that they are not one in the same. By your logic, if someone is showing "pussy and tits for the world to see", then she MUST therefore be offering it to the world to use. HAHA! What kind of crackpot mentality is that? A pic is a pic. Period! It's a fun way to show off, have fun, let go, flirt or to seriously show any potential members of what COULD or MIGHT be offered to the right candidate(s). Again, this is where the importance of READING PROFILES comes into play. If she tells you in her description that she seeks a committed relationship, then that's what she's advertising as her purpose and intent here. Don't be lured into showing up at a used car lot, based solely on a photograph of a flashy $500 Lamborghini and then be let down AFTER you LATER READ on the posted advertisement that the car is missing a motor. Reading always helps!
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