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I wonder if the people who ask what your fantasies are will be able to deal with the reality of being with you. My fantasy: being with someone who wants to be with me. Please don't let me be misunderstood.
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...create your own realities and the fantasies will write themselves.....
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I think as much as anything they're just gauging your freak-level to know how to proceed. And possibly looking for ideas for the next time someone else asks them the same question. My fantasy is probably a group play/orgy situation, where I can watch, give, and receive in more or less equal measure. And for people to be nice to one another. Either or is fine for the time being!
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The few who've asked that question of me have come away disappointed, as well, for the same reasons. Sure, I had the threesome with two women fantasy, when I was younger, but that's long since faded. Instead, I prefer to try making my partner's fantasies come true, which is what brings me the most satisfaction. In my experience, most women don't feel comfortable sharing their fantasies until they trust you enough with their vulnerability.
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8/2/2020 2:08 pm |
I agree with you. Maybe its an age thing.... I know i dont have fantasies..... I do enjoy sex. The best part for me is find out what my partner enjoys and giving them as pleasure as possible. If they want to try something new to them then thats great..... I Dont know that i would call it a fantasy though.
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Intimacy, that's what I really enjoy most of all. Good sex usually follows. I guess I have a few 'fantasies', perhaps of things I'd like to try with my partner. But I think most fantasies should probably remain fantasies, because I doubt the reality would live up to what you've conjured up in your own mind? Good post Mc12!
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Ah'll gi'e ye a right guid hijackin' ony time ye wahnt McBiggles!! Ye're so gettin' yer arse skelped!! Skelpity skelp, skelp, skelp!
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I think for most, it is probably a conversation starter and a way to gauge someone's sexual compatibility. I agree that a "fantasy" implies something that is improbable to occur, however, asking about someone's fantasy can also serve as a glimpse into someone's imagination. I love exploring a partner's sexy mind as much as her body, but you are absolutely right, there needs to be a comfort level reached in order to fully explore one's sexual imagination freely. PLEASE COME AND CHECK OUT MY BLOG AND IF YOU ENJOYED IT LEAVE ME A COMMENT. KEEP IT SEXY!!
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So what is the goal of the fantasy question? Make conversation? Get aroused by someone else's fantasy? Proclaim you can make it come true? Get ideas for yourself? Figure out if this person is kinky enough for you? It could be any one of those things. It depends on the person. For me, if the topic comes up, it let's me know more about the person's personality. However, most fantasies remain a fantasy so it doesn't that much to me compared to other aspects of their personality and attitude.
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Of all the times I've been asked that question, very few times have I felt there was a deeper connection , upon which I could expand and elaborate... ( not that there were particular ones, it was rather being inspired - or not - by the specific person ) Guess the jest of your dilemma,is chemistry my lady ... Cheers - P
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...create your own realities and the fantasies will write themselves..... ....I like the way you think too....
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After reading this and the answers within I am wondering if "fantasies" is a term that everyone understands the same way. Having said that I believe it takes a great deal of trust to share deeply felt sexual desires. I can't imagine asking someone I just me what their fantasies are. Like many things having to do with sexual intimacy, it takes time, patience, and a great deal of trust to get to the point of understanding how desire works for anyone else. Even those are not guarantees it will happen but they do seem to be requisite requirements.
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